Some context does involve me opening up to this person and they telling me it’s cute that I open over text, being lonely might make me get attached to them quickly.
The whole thought is if they didn’t have same feelings about me; should I be open and say I should pursue a healthy relationship or just not say anything and let it come out through my actions
Okay here’s an alternative route:
Rather than trying to express this with words, do it through meaningful action. Go out of your way to spend time with this person. Suggest things you can do together even if it’s just going out for coffee or shopping or whatever. When they open up and share, listen in earnest and express empathy. This will allow your feelings to show themselves organically without you having to concoct some awkward-ass monologue about it. This will also provide you with nonverbal feedback about how they feel, and you can proceed accordingly.
Took me decades to figure this out myself btw.
This is it. You don’t say “I’m gonna kiss you Steve” you smile, and act natural and romance them
It depends. I’ve been on the other side and I’m glad they told me, but we were good friends. But it is awkward and uncomfortable, it just in that case made it so it was mutually understood what was happening as we drifted apart, rather than leaving me wondering why and them wondering what if.
Ultimately that’s the thing, if it’s probably a no, then you’re more likely balancing a question of how much it needs to be said with how awkward you expect it to be, though likelihood of reciprocation is still a factor here, it’s just that even at a definite no it may be worth it.
Most importantly though is about making it clear you’ll respect however they feel. I wish I didn’t have to say that, but unfortunately some people need it said.
