That and “I totally would have gone to grad school, had [situation] not happened”
Fr though I totally would’ve gone to grad school had I not been disowned. Ignore that my sister also decided not to go last minute
Having a high intelligence level shouldn’t mean you owe anybody to ‘make it big’, regardless of what that means.
The only people calling everyone out for this were Always going to be failures.
How about being above average intelligence, but get placed in below average classes because one child study team person decided you had “auditory” problems while you were in kindergarten? I recently found out that my highschool guidance counselors lied about my placement tests and I should have been in honors science instead of remedial.
What do you mean I can’t get by with the bare minimum effort anymore? That’s all I really learned!
Most of these kinds of people as adults just didn’t realize that as they got older they actually had to try, that intelligence and skill aren’t inherent and is something you actually have to put effort into.
I was gifted enough to eventually figure out I was a dumb ass.
Socrates, is that you?
No, but he sure is dumb enough to think he is
Ouch that’s a lot of damage.
It’s more describing how I’m decaying while still alive
…yeah jocks getting life-changing injuries in their school years is actually pretty comparable to “gifted kids” getting traumatized by this shithole version of America
not funny ha-ha so much as what the fuck is wrong with americans, why are they like this to their kids
Not exclusive to the US. I’m Canadian and I found high school awful and traumatizing.
That’s too bad dude. Our highschool wasn’t perfect but we had a lot of teachers that cared. And it was an art highschool so we had 3 separate full time art teachers that covered different disciplines. It was awesome fr a person that liked art
I had teachers that cared a lot. It was everything else that I hated. The other students, the schedule, the mountains of rote work.
High school had this nasty vibe that made my skin crawl all the time I was there. I didn’t want to go to class anymore. I stopped going and eventually dropped out.
Decades later I finished high school through online courses and then went to university and got my degree. Wish I’d taken that option earlier.
Reminds me of the bunnies and tortoise dance - the story behind it is that there’s fast learners, and then slower learners that have to work extra hard to keep up, more than the fast learners, but in the end they all burn out except the one last kid left alone. Sad af, cool dance, cool idea.
Yeah, my “gift” was undiagnosed ADHD which has made life absolutely miserable to navigate once I left the extremely structured environment of school.
Is it really about explaining why they’re not more successful? Personally being “burnt out” was more of a realization that I don’t even want that kind of success, I just want to get as far away from the way my life was in highschool as possible.
Fuckin’ PREACH
After 40 years and 3 months of testing I finally discovered everything wrong with me is because I have ADHD.
So yeah, if it wasn’t from my injured mind I could have been someone lol
After realizing I’m probably ADD, I was watching a lecture about ADHD and the psychiatrist described it as basically “diabetes of the mind”, that was an oh moment.
Yeah or not everyone needs to be “someone”
In this economy?
There’s a lot of comments in here addressing the social skill reduction, as if those kids in gifted programs (hello, fellow former gifted kids) didn’t still socialize with their peers in just about every other aspect.
Even the kids in ‘charter school programs’ here were just separated from a group of 400 to a group of 50 or so kids for half or so of the day and then the rest of the stuff they attended classes with the other 350 kids. Even if they were completely separated off, they still have peers (admittedly, also ‘gifted’ peers).
Ignoring that portion, and you’ve still got the fact that you MUST challenge a child while developing. If I didn’t get put in the ‘gifted’ track, I’d have goofed off even more and paid even less attention. NONE of my peers had their parents doing their homework (like some commentera have put), we just finally had homework we couldn’t do on our own on the bus ride home. If you don’t challenge a child’s mind, they can’t grow. And people who think every kid learns at the same pace, and that learning slower than the pace your brain can handle has no negative side effects, have no idea what they’re talking about and should look into child development as a focus of psychology and come back to this comment thread.
most of the comments here are just self-victimization in the form of ‘could have been’.
which is precisely the premise of the OG post. People are just pouring their delusions into this being like ‘no but that doesn’t apply to me!! i truly was gifted and special!!’
I don’t know… hard for me to understand any of this. I was not a gifted kid. I was smart and hard working. Most ‘gifted’ people I have met are just… lazy jerks who refuse to grow up and take responsibility for their choices… but LOVE to go on and on about how everything is their parents/teachers fault and how their perfectly decent life would have been so much ‘better’ and they’d be the next Bill Gates/Zuckerberg/Musk if some math teacher had been less mean to them as a pre teen.
It’s true and like 80% of people on Reddit and Lemmy think they’re gifted kids who just were too lazy/neurotic/something or other to properly use their natural talent or intelligence.
Lazy intellectuals™
I think what you are referring to is neurodivergent people. Many of which are now aware of said neurodivergence that they didn’t know about as a “gifted kid”.
They aren’t though. They are just jerks looking for an excuse for themselves. Typical stats on ADHD are like 10% at best.
Only 23% of the USA population has any mental problems or disorders… they just over represent themselves tremendously on social media and most everyone who claims to have these issues is ‘self diagnosed’ which is about as reliable a diagnosis as them claiming they are excellent drivers or how they could have been pro sports players. Oh and everyone loves to diagnose all their exes/friends too as having mental problems because they were mean to them or did stupid shit.
Truth is most people are incredibly delusional about themselves. I live in a city full of people making six figures who love to tell you how they are financially struggling and life is cruel and unfair, when objectively they are living amazing lives. They are just insanely bitter aren’t famous, fabulously wealthy, or social media influencers.
But if you confront them with this reality… they will HATE you.
Jesus, everyone wants on the ADHD/autistic train, needs to be “special”. Every post on c/autism is about perfectly normal behaviors and quirks that affect most of us.
I think a lot of it is young people struggling with growing up, as we all do. They think everyone else is doing just fine and they’re the weird one. Motherfuckers need to watch The Breakfast Club, get a clue. We all struggled in much the same ways.
Hell, my first year of college saw me so mixed up I felt like I was going through puberty again, but I recognized that it was merely another phase in life. Happened again in my late 20s. LOL, thought I was cursed to flip out every 10 years. Never happened again thank fucking god.
tbf, improper diets and insufficient medical care, general social isolation made worse by an intentional housing “crisis” that is destroying communities, (and stress itself, exacerbated by those things and job insecurity) can all trigger latent risk anyone might have for X mental Illness…the US is a very sick place, in more ways than one.
us apes are social creatures, we need proper social interaction in order to not go fucking crazy…and right now we have tech/media companies (and governments) all fighting for control over what digital bubbles they want to keep their populations isolated in…and so far they’re winning
Do you think that percentage is correct given the lack of medical access most Americans experience and the phobia they have of what will be denied to them if diagnosed?
Or just millennials and some of gen Z. We all grew up being told constantly that we were special and gifted, could do anything we wanted if we put our mind to it.
Accepting that we’re actually just another nameless joe-dipshit in an ocean of millions of people that could easily replace us without causing even so much as a hiccup to society… was a hard pill for a lot of us to swallow.
Nowadays I thought “gifted kid” was just a sarcastic way to describe most of us: average at best.
