• ThatWeirdGuy1001@lemmy.world
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    Okay but like I like blowjobs and it makes me not want to go down on a girl if she won’t reciprocate. I deal with it because I like eating pussy but it’s definitely on my mind when it’s my turn and she doesn’t want to reciprocate.

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      Yeah I like going down but I would never stay with someone that can’t reciprocate

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    I’m very fortunate that my partner loved giving blow jobs, she’ll even just randomly start sucking my dick unprompted because she’s filthy and enjoys it so much.

    That said when I met her, she wasn’t as keen on receiving but luckily enough I have been able to warm her up to it more, because I love eating her delicious cunt.

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      Can you ask her to write a tutorial on how to enjoy getting ate out pls, cuz I can suck dick all day long, but the second there’s a face anywhere near my twat, I’m instantly closed for business. And I know my husband wants to too, I just… ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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      You’re fantastic. I’ve always wanted to slap others when they use the word ‘suck’ as a bad thing. It’s like, dude, you don’t like it when I attempt to inhale your dick?!?

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        Yeah I never quite understood why when something “sucks” it’s a bad thing, but when something “blows” it’s also bad? Yet a good blow job or suck job is the best!

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    My wife hates giving blowjobs, to the point where she doesn’t even want me to go down on her since she feels bad for not wanting to reciprocate. It’s like, I don’t do it because I want to get something in return, I just want to make you feel good, haha!

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      I feel ya. Got a similar situation. She often does not want me to go down on her or similar bevause she does not have the energy to reciprocate. But she still says she wants it. The she keeps saying ‘oh you don’t have to do all this’.

      It’s odd but sometimes we do stuff because it feels good to make our loved ones feel good.

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        Ma’am, I’m trying to pleasure a Lady down here, that’s hard work. Please stop worrying and enjoy the trip.

        Besides that, I found blowjobs to be boring every time. It just doesn’t do that much for me.

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      Bro, talk to her about getting a Fleshlight. That way you both win. She won’t feel guilty and both of you pleasure each other.

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      I genuinely wonder what that’s about. Why is it so much of a sacrifice, why is it any different from giving a back rub (assuming you have good hygiene). I certainly am not bothered by going down on her - on the contrary.

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        From what I understand, her previous relationships had all been transactional, where the guy made her feel like she owed him for every nice thing he did. She’s still working on allowing herself to receive without feeling a sense of debt.

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          I’ve dated quite a few women and had a couple of long-term relationships. They all seem reluctant to give a blowjob - it happens but rarely. I’ve never pushed it, only shown in every way I can how much I enjoy it when it does happen. My current domestic partner does it, but I probably go down on her 10-20x more often than she does me.

          But it’s also kind of a general pattern that they expect me to take the initiative in sex, and they are relatively passive. One hypothesis I have is that taking too much initiative makes them feel “slutty” or that their own desirability is not confirmed enough. Maybe this is just a part of that general pattern. But what do I know.

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      it sounds like she wants to reciprocate giving pleasure in some way, just not that one. give her an idea.

      the sexiest organ you can use during sex is your brain, then your voice. communication goes a long, long way.

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    checks who is posting

    Ah.

    I think if you find someone like that you’d literally have no time to leave the house.

    • WIZARD POPE💫@lemmy.world
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      If you fit. My gf is so much smaller than me (more accurately I am much taller/bigger, she is about average size) that it quite literally dors not work. I can barely kiss her normaly without breaking both our necks during sex.

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    I don’t really like blowjobs, my wife loves giving them. I love going down though, so I just let her enjoy before it’s my turn.

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      This is me, I’ve got a severe oral fixation and eating pussy and ass are among my favorite things in life but it’s not easy for me to enjoy it myself. Although I will concede to enjoying pretty much anything oral as long as the other party LOVES doing it. I’d rather just have sex than get a half assed blowjob but if someone loves having a dick in their mouth it makes a huge difference

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        but if someone loves having a dick in their mouth it makes a huge difference

        Um, hi! I’m here, and I’m looking to be swallowing someone’s big 'ole horse dong!

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            Oh, I haven’t been up there in years. My idiot sister made the brilliant decision to move from those beautiful lands down to a desert, and I haven’t had a reason to go back yet. I loved the view from the puget sound, and seeing mountains in every direction if you can get a little elevation is just amazing.