• arrow74@lemmy.zip
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    4 days ago

    Referring to people that have kids as “breeder” will never not be weird to me.

    Same energy as when ferengi talk about “females”

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      4 days ago

      It’s fairly sarcastic, and only something said between other childfree people because they get the joke.

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        3 days ago

        No. I’m childfree and I find that terminology disgusting. It’s something terminally online redditors use as a slur to feel superior. The childfree subs on reddit were no different to me than the incel forums. Same degenerate energy.

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          3 days ago

          Wow. Ok, TIL it’s actually offensive. My apologies. I’ve only ever used it occasionally with other childfree friends. Maybe that’s where they got it from. All I picked up from Reddit like 10 years ago was that “childfree” is that term, vs. “Childless” with its connotations and judgment of me.

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            3 days ago

            Oh I’m sorry, I didn’t mean that childfree was offensive, but the word “breeder” about parents is offensive.

            The childfree subreddits were - in my opinion - extremely hateful towards children and parents to a genuinely disturbing degree. It’s why I ended up abandoning those subs back in the day because naive little me initially thought it was just a place where people who choose to not have kids gather to chat about their lives and thoughts about being childless. Instead I found myself in a friggin snake pit where every post was like an incel post, so full of hatred and degrading words to describe kids and parents.

            Sorry about the confusion. Childfree vs childless don’t really carry any offensive connotations in my opinion. I see them as neutral descriptors and I use both interchangeably.

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              3 days ago

              No need to be sorry, I understand you, it’s just an odd circumstance. And you’re 100% correct, I never participated on those subs because it’s all just cartoon villain style hate. Which clearly is either performative or covering insecurity. Neither are me and my partner, so they were never a place for me.

              Sorry to have strayed into negative territory, and thanks for your patience explaining the issue.

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                3 days ago

                You’re good, my friend. I should also have used a more friendly tone myself and not assumed the worst intentions in someone else, so I apologize for that as well. I hope you have a wonderful day and that the weather is a bit warmer where you are than where I am, lol. My toes are about to break off, :’)

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          4 days ago

          Not at all. It’s a faux pejorative.

          I’m not explaining how sarcasm works. If you don’t get it, you don’t get it. But then that means it’s not for you.