Feeling judged by my female friends.

  • ivan@piefed.social
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    2 days ago

    There was once a conversation at my work through which I discovered that most of my male coworkers enjoy baking (and yes, I also enjoy baking).

    Simultaneously funniest and saddest part of that was one lady sitting through that conversation with thousand yards stare, who previously said that her husband, in terms of household chores, doesn’t even know how to use washing machine.

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      2 days ago

      It’s still prevalent unfortunately.

      My ex-husband once woke me up at 4am to yell at me about not having clean socks.

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          Thanks :)

          That was one of those rare moments that I gained a lot of clarity about the situation I was in.

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        Sad that it had to happen to you.

        I also absolutely acknowledge that in society that we have today - things like cooking or even basic ones like proper hygiene (as in not using one bar of soap for everything) are something that is expected from women by default, but men doing that are treated as something special.

        That said, I’m kind of a hypocrite since while I tout about all that, I definitely used my baking to impress women. 🌝

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          I love a good breaking of a stereotype myself lol

          Do you post any of your bakes on the baking community? I’d love to see them if you want to share!

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            Oh, I often share pictures with my friends, but I’ll definitely consider one day posting to baking community.

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      her husband … doesn’t even know how to use washing machine.

      That’s her child then. I’d recommend women start calling that out, but only if safe.